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5 Incredible Traits of the Joker that Everyone Should Have

// August 23rd, 2008 // No Comments » // Personal Development

Spoiler Warning – This post might contain spoilers for The Dark Knight

The Joker in The Dark Night invokes intense emotions. He is quite the force for Batman to fight because of his overwhelming personality. But, the question comes to mind what makes the Joker so successful? He might be the villain, but I find many admirable things about him. Here is a list of traits that each of us might take note of.

1.    Money doesn’t buy happiness

The moment I saw the Joker burn his money I knew there was a deep lesson in him. Can you ever say that you would do that? Now, we must remember the Joker was a wee bit insane; however the Joker showed that his actions provided enough pleasure rather than the profit. He had found his calling in life which gave him enough happiness that money couldn’t buy. He only needed the little things in life (bullets and explosives). Is there anything in your life that you would be willing to not make much money doing? Could you follow your dream of photography if it meant that you would only be making enough to live on? Your dreams might cost you money, but they might make you far happier than money.

2.    Passion

Passion separates the novice from the expert. This is the secret ingredient to success. If you are passionate (obsessed) enough then you can achieve it. The Joker easily shows his passion to cause chaos. He has nothing else to do but cause chaos. He doesn’t work 9 to 5 and save his trouble making time until the weekend. He drops everything and follows his dream. He lives for the games he plays. He is able to do anything because he is passionate enough to do anything to achieve his goals. When have you found something to be that passionate about? Did you drop –everything- for it? It seems unrealistic to give up life for a passion, but look around you. The Olympics are almost over, but each of those people has a passion. They do try to train for the Olympics after work. They don’t only devote an hour a day to training. They go full force, and they become the best in the world. The same is true for people like Bobby Fischer. He didn’t play chess a few games a day. He lived for chess. When he wasn’t playing chess, he was thinking about chess. Imagine what you could do if you were that passionate with something you love


3.    Best to not try if you will give up

The Joker doesn’t decide to give up once he is thrown in jail. He doesn’t give up when he can’t seem to get to Batman. He keeps on trying. He states that he will keep up this game with Batman until the end. He doesn’t allow setbacks to deter him. He gets foiled, but he just gets up with a laugh and goes out to do it again. Failure is just a process that leads to success if you keep trying. You can’t expect to succeed in every endeavor the first time; instead you can expect to gain ground if you keep trying.  You lose a game, so play again and you keep playing until you win.  If you are thinking of starting your own business then you have to be able to take the failures. You will have to keep adjusting until you start making a profit. Failure isn’t forever.

4.    Creativity can go a long way

You can’t expect to cause terror in a whole city with a simple gun or shooting. You have to do things that aren’t expected and will be exciting. This is how the best people will make success for them. They make a new path. Robbing a bank? Why not use a school bus to blend in. If the Joker would have used a normal getaway then he would have been caught. The best things are possible if you are able to be creative and apply new ideas to old techniques. You can make money from home, so why not think of a creative way to make more money from home. Perhaps you find a better product to market from home. You have to set yourself from the rest of the group in order to achieve more.  You have to find creative ways to achieve your dreams, because sometimes you won’t have the choice otherwise. You can’t afford to spend a month in Europe? Get creative and decide to  get a contact in Europe and offer your services, such as finding a person that needs someone to clean their house and they have an extra room. You have enough money to eat on and entertain yourself, but the cost of finding a room is harder. You just solved that problem with a creative approach instead of just getting a cheap hotel room. Find a new path when everyone else is treading the same old path.

5.    A laugh can go a long way

An article about the Joker isn’t complete without mentioning laughter. He doesn’t get stressed out. He finds the fun in each situation. He is so entertaining because he is always in a joking mood. This is his character, but it makes sense. He is able to have fun and play his games. He truly enjoys what he does, which is shown. He can laugh when others wouldn’t laugh. He can laugh in the face of death. He always finds a reason to have a laugh. I think we could all use a little laughter a bit more. If we take ourselves too seriously then we will miss enjoying life. You are wasting your life being depressed when you could be happy. You can still find the funny things in the worst situations. Life is funny, so why so serious?

I am not suggesting that anyone should try to copy the Joker. His actions aren’t admirable, but his personality traits are something that should be examined. He is able to be the villain that you can’t help but feel in awe of. He does a better job than Batman in invoking emotion, I think. So, think a little about these traits and see if you can apply any to your life. Go out and find your passion, and please have a laugh while doing it.

Overcoming Anger

// August 20th, 2008 // No Comments » // Personal Development

“Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.”

You most likely have found yourself getting angry a time or two. Anger is seen as a normal emotion. Would you be surprised by a person that never gets angry? I know that I would. It may be so common that it is considered normal, but this doesn’t mean that you should allow it to be normal for you. Anger has never benefited me, and I am guessing that it hasn’t benefited you either. Anger only wastes your energy that could used for better things. Let us not waste that energy anymore.

The disadvantages of anger

You are walking down the street and soon you hear a car that is honking its horn at you. As you turn around you begin to hear a string of nasty references towards you. Most people would get angry at the people in the car. They had no reason to say those things to you, so you begin to get angry at them. You were on your way home, and you are still in a foul mood when you arrive home. Your roommate tries to talk you, but you only snap at him. Now you have hurt your friend because you were angry. The anger caused you more harm than the nasty comments did. If you would have ignored them and never got angry then nothing would have happened. You would have arrived home happy. Happiness isn’t possible if you are too preoccupied being angry. You have successfully ruined your own mood. You are only dwelling on this problem that has happened. The event has occurred in reality, but your anger is allowing the event to replay over and over in your mind. You cannot change the event, but you can change the way you react.

Alternatives to Anger

Anger will give rise to more anger. It is like allowing a little spark to turn into a small fire. That small fire starts to transform into a bigger and bigger fire until you burned down everything around. There is a reason that anger is often associated to fire. It only succeeds in burning you and the people around you. You wouldn’t normally harm yourself, so you shouldn’t get angry. This doesn’t mean that you shouldn’t react to injustices though. If you were wronged, then you should react, but you should react in a calm manner. The moment anger appears then reason begins to leave. You aren’t able to be the most reasonable person while angry, so this means that the problem will never get solved. If you stay calm then you will be able to solve the problem easier.

Transforming the anger into something better

Anger normally appears when we feel hurt or when expectations were not met. The anger becomes a way to protect ourselves, but we aren’t really doing that. This is just a illusion that we are protecting ourselves by becoming anger. In reality we are only harming ourselves. We must learn to stay calm to protect ourselves, because we are able to reasonable think through the situation. Staying calm might be seen as a weakness, but anger is the real weakness. If you get angry, then you are allowing other people to control you. By having the ability to stay calm, then you are in control of yourself. You can be productive, but this requires you to be in control. You are either presented with a situation that you can change, which means that you shouldn’t become angry because you will not be productive in changing it. On the other hand, you might be presented with a situation that you cannot change, then you must accept the situation. If you become angry then the situation will continue to affect you even though you have no control over it.

Patience is a virtue in moments of anger, and luckily it isn’t hard. Patience only requires you to not react, but to take the time to think it through. You aren’t required to act; instead you should refrain from acting until you know what you should do. You have to work at it though. You have to be able to tame your mind.

- Count to 100

- Breathe Deep

- Change your position. If you find that your hands are going into a fist position, then open them. Change your stance if you seem to be in a defensive position. Change your face. Smile!

- Reflect. Is this situation really worth ruining your mood over?

This will take time, but it leads to more happiness. Think of someone that never seems to get mad. Wouldn’t it be nice to be like them?